The Sins of the Parents
There was quite a bit of furor in
the hospital wards as I entered today. I was in a bit of a hurry to catch the
attendance so I didn’t bother to stop and inquire till after I successfully
finger printed myself in the biometric machine after the mandatory 3 tries it
takes daily to recognize me. Once that important part of my duty done, I
naturally drifted back to where the arguments were going on to catch up on the
latest gossip.
The facts of the case as explained
to me by the nurses was this -a pregnant lady had been brought in the early
hours of the night in an advanced delivery state with the child caught up in an
awkward position halfway down the womb and hence causing severe bleeding in the
mother. The duty doctor had attempted an emergency cesarean and in a twist of
fate the child had survived somehow but the mother exhausted beyond her body's
capacity to endure had died soon after the childbirth.
And then had started all the
confusion. When asked about the next of kin to hand over the child and the dead
person, the people who had brought the lady in for emergency admission declined
to accept responsibility for they said that they were just the neighbors of the
dead woman. They had overheard the woman screaming alone in her house from the
labor pains, had rushed in to see what was up and then seeing her condition had
put her in an auto and brought her to the hospital for treatment out of
humanitarian grounds only.
After much cajoling and
threatening the nursing staff finally found out the address of the dead woman’s
parents from them. When they contacted the parents of the dead woman, they had
rushed in wailing and screaming at their loss and after the mandatory
scene-creation, they said they would accept the body of their daughter only and
not the living child who was no relation of theirs. The nurses automatically
assumed that this was one more of those love stories/elopements where the
parents are dead against the couples even if they are dead.
But there was a further twist to
this story. When the parents of the dead woman finally got to control their
grief they gave the name (and address) of their son-in-law and suggested that
he be summoned to take guardianship of the child. So then the hospital
authorities called up the husband of the dead woman and he arrived to everyone’s
surprise with a lawyer in tow. The guy was a minor official in some government
department and had decided to take an official approach to everything by
letting his lawyer speak on his behalf.
The story the lawyer told was that
the lady in question, had married his client an year ago and right from the
beginning had been creating problems for him. After a couple of weeks she had
come right out and said that she had been forced into marriage with him against
her will by her parents as she was already in love with an auto driver near her
college who looked as smart as the actor Surya – the smart action hero(as
described in her dialogue it seems). But the parents had objected to their love
and had hurriedly married off to this guy, a government officer, who looks like
the comedian S.V. Shekar (her own dialogue again).
The result of this midnight
confession by the girl to her husband was seen right the next day when she had
disappeared from her husband’s house after saying she was off to visit her
parents for a day or two. When the husband learnt she was missing, he was in a
panic and so contacted his lawyer first - because there is an obscure little
law in the Indian Penal Code which says that any wife who dies within the first
7 years of the marriage is supposed to have been murdered by her husband and it
carries the death penalty for the husband (a law which was originally made to
prevent the exploding stove deaths but now widely misused for other reasons by
our friendly neighborhood police force)
Anyhow the family lawyer had
suggested that they give an official police complaint to safeguard themselves-
which the husband promptly did. And our efficient Chennai police immediately
located the missing woman by enquiring at the local auto stand of her lover
boy. They traced her to the house where she was living happily with her lover,
the auto driver. When the husband was informed of this by the police, he had
called at his in-laws place and told them he was washing his hands off their
daughter and he would divorce her after the mandatory two year waiting period
specified by law for a divorce.
Meanwhile the girl who was living
her dream life with her lover got a jolt of reality when she became pregnant
and discovered by chance that her dream boy had another family in another town-
at his native place. Frequent quarrels had resulted from this and the woman had
made an attempt to commit suicide more than once but had somehow survived.
Meanwhile as the date of her delivery neared the auto driver had one final quarrel
with her and disappeared after telling her that he was going back to his
original wife and kids back in his hometown. The woman who had been left alone
survived for a few days till she had died in childbirth.
So now the husband (the official
one) refused to take custody of the child saying it was not his but the
illegitimate offspring of an affair. The parents had refused to take the child
saying it was not their grandchild. Finally with no one willing to take
responsibility for the child, the hospital authorities had no choice but to
dispatch the child to an orphanage. And that’s the story i heard this morning
to start off my working day.
What this story reminded me of
immediately was the recent Madras High Court’s judgment on pre-marital sex
which was widely reported in all the newspapers and which ruled that any couple
found sleeping together being considered as officially married. But that should
by rights, apply only to two people who have sex exclusively with each other.
But what happens when extra marital affairs like this happens? The woman
legally married one man and had a child with another man. Now both of them are
refusing to accept the child as their own despite the high court’s judgment
that she is now "legally" married to both of them at the same time-
the minute she slept with both. Quite confusing isn’t it?
Human relationships are often
complicated. We human beings often let our hearts rule over our heads when it
comes to love. We also react emotionally to any issue which affects our
happiness- that’s why we often say, in our excuse, I am only human. But we
should also remember that our actions have consequences, maybe not immediately
apparent but nevertheless real. And the persons who might get affected by our
thoughtless (and selfish) actions are often other innocents- like the child in
this case. For the child was accepted by neither the hero Surya nor the
comedian S.V.Sekar finally.
So though I am a big fan of love, I
do believe that the right time to fight for love is before the marriage- at
least the night before the wedding or even at the altar, right up to the last
minute before the ceremony (remember Julia Roberts in the movie Runaway Bride?).
But not after the wedding ceremony is over and thou art wed has been pronounced.
If so it will definitely end up in a tragedy for everyone.
And one final word at the risk of
falling afoul of the law. Relationships (families) are often complicated and
messy, but they somehow pull through in the end. The Law was evolved (over
thousands of years) to punish criminals and keep peace in the society and not
to hang around the bedrooms and decide who is married to whom, based on who
slept with whom. Don’t you have murderers and rapists to hang, your honorable
justices? So why are you pushing together two people who do not want to do so
by free will, to live together in the name of the law? Do you really think it
will last, marriages made in fear of punishment? Will there be any kind of
happiness in it, when two people are forced to live with each other just to
avoid being sent to jail? I really don’t know…maybe someone who has experienced
it will enlighten me, if a marriage made in fear can work well.
I feel so sad for the poor child, who is suffering for no fault.. such a messed up world we live in :(
ReplyDeleteagree 100% Aarti..truly messed up where we are all living hypocritical lives letting society make all our decisions...i think no one is the villian here..everyone is a victim of circumstances
DeleteThough this narrative can be fodder for many films, the scenario is very disturbing and most often those who get affected are children who are victims. Sad.
ReplyDeleteJoy always,
Susan
I have one more thought to offer Susan....if you are so messed up in your own life...why thehell would have a child at the same time? I just wish that woman had had the sense to straighten out her life before getting pregnant.,, and oh by the way..fodder for films? I hope not..as it is we see too many people blamimg things on filmy influences...not this too
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