Proving
a Damn Point.
A friend was talking to me
yesterday when he started complaining about the teasing he was suffering at the
workplace from the management and how his entire job experience had turned
bitter. When I asked him as to why he was still hanging around that damn job,
for after all he was well qualified, experienced and bright and would be
snatched up by any other competitor, the answer he gave me was this
"because I don’t want them to win, I want to prove my point by sticking on
there till they kick me out themselves". Excuse me, you would rather wait
to be kicked out then walk out with dignity? Surprising. Anyway to come back to
this “proving a point” thing- I keep hearing this justification very often from
plenty of others too and each time I wonder about it, whether it is a wisest
course of action.
The point is, I don’t get the
point of proving a point (forgive the bad alliteration, coudnt resist). In my
point of view any place, act, or situation which makes you uncomfortable and
irritates you is a flashing red sign to get away from that stressful place (or
person). If going to work every day means you are at a high state of tension
throughout the day and the stress is going to give you High Blood Pressure,
Kidney failure, maybe a Stroke or two and an Heart-Attack to boot, then I couldn’t
care less about proving a point to some moron if it’s going to hurt me that
much ultimately. No anger or grudge is worth destroying our own health and
peace of mind. When I stated this belief of mine to another colleague seated nearby,
he said that he sympathized with the other guy and if I didn’t agree with the
majority view, then I must be a cold blooded type.
I am not sure what he meant by
being hot-blooded but if it means flying into a temper at the drop of a hat,
boiling with rage, swearing vengeance, carrying grudges or fighting a vendetta
to prove my point- then please count me out. I am not interested in remembering
every hurt or betrayal and living just to take revenge for it. That is just not
me- I am slow to anger, fast to cool down and I forgive easily. Life, to me, is
too short and precious to waste it on grudges. I would rather forget and move
on with doing my own thing. And I sure as hell don’t want to prove a point to
anyone on anything if it means loss of peace of mind to me. In my often stated
view- life should be calm, peaceful and stress-less as we glide over its smoothly
polished surface.
To intentionally create havoc in
our own lives just to teach someone else a lesson is utter foolishness in my
view. Karma will get them in due course so why waste all our energies and
precious moments of the present planning a possible gloating moment of the
future? Maybe I will never get it- why people are ready to go so far to get
revenge. Maybe I really am a cold fish. Or maybe, just maybe, I am wiser than
all those grudge-holders, revenge-seekers and point-provers. Who knows? Have
you any idea?
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