When you are self employed it
takes a lot of self discipline to prioritize work over entertainment. But the
converse is also true. Self employed persons sometimes become obsessed with
work (and money-making) to an unhealthy degree; to the exclusion of everything
else, including the occasional day out to unwind. Achieving a satisfactory work
life balance is difficult when you don’t have a boss behind you, to tell you
when to work or to when to take a day off. Besides there is also the financial
aspect involved. When you are like me and have chosen to prioritize a day out
with friends over working, there is always the thought in the back of the mind,
a little voice saying, that the time spent having fun involves not only the
money you are spending currently but also the money you are not earning by
skipping work and ultimately it will all reflect on your monthly balance sheet
(read it and weep).
Plus being in a responsible job
where patients sometimes turn up 24/7 and expect to be taken care of
immediately means arranging for proper substitutes even when you are not there.
This is usually achieved by advising your juniors that when you were at their
age (and career-stage) you used to work day and night including all weekends
and only went home to shower/change and get back to work. And now that you are
the consultant you expect your assistants to keep up the standards you
established before. To say all this straight faced and then to skip out for a
Saturday night out with your buddies, leaving your assistants behind to work on
your behalf can only be done infrequently and on the days you pull off such a
feat, you should maximize the fun you can have leaving no stone unturned in the
search for ways to enjoy. Now after this lengthy explanation given to offer a
peek into why I do what I do, I will go on to describe my latest weekend riot
at the Indi-blogger meet 2012.
The venue for the meet was at the
newest hotel in town, ITC, Grand Chola at Guindy and I had to hurry home from
the hospital, get changed and be on my way without a pause to make it there on
time. Once I had registered I looked around for my fellow bloggers to meet and
greet. For after all this was bloggers meet and what else were we their but to
network with other bloggers? The first person I met was someone I had heard
about a lot from other people in the blogging circle – GB as she terms herself or Ganga Bharani
to give her full name. She is a published author and has a number of books to her credit. Most bloggers dont make
the grade from blogging to publishing but this girl had done the jump and I was
anxious to pick her brain to see how she had done that and learn from her
experience.
The next person I met was someone
who I had never met before but had had been following through her blog for a
year and more and who had been a great source of inspiration to me. This girl Bhushavalli Natrajan or 3-B (Biker
Babe Bhushavalli) as she is known in the blogger world (quite famously) has
half a dozen blogs to her credit in many different genres– travelogue, fashion,
poetry etal and unbelievably she updates every single one of them almost daily.
And here I am unable to update my single blog weekly and blaming writers’ block
as an excuse. Its people like Bhusha who shame me into stop looking for
pathetic excuses and start writing more, whatever just pops into my head
instead of sitting around staring at the ceiling waiting for that “perfect”
inspiration to strike me out of the blue and make the words flow.
And then I met someone whose work I
admired a lot- the food stylist Sanjeeta KK. I had followed her design work
avidly online and here was a rare chance to watch her in action as she went
around shooting pictures to grasp how she looked differently at the things which
we gloss over as mundane but which ultimately turn out so beautiful when shot
by an expert. Long, long ago someone had told me that surgery cannot be taught,
but can learn by watching the experts do it. I find that to be equally true to
all creative things including photography.
Which is the reason that I haunt
the footsteps of my photography mentor
Ramasamy N or Ram Anna (yes, he of the famous ChennaiDailyFoto site) as he
is affectionately known in the blogger world, whenever we go around shooting
urbanscapes as part of photo-walks around the city. By hanging out with him as
he selects his subjects, frames his shots and then decides what to retain or
not, I have learnt more about photography than I would have attending half a
dozen workshops. And here was a chance to study with yet another master
photographer, a specialist in shooting set pieces, Sanjeeta KK and I jumped at
the chance to learn from her shoots.
Now after reading the above, if
you get an idea that all did was work, then you got the wrong impression. I also
did quite a few of my regular (crazy in others language) things, like suggesting
that I would use an i-Pad to break on someone’s heads (to a question on what I would
do if I won an i-pad) , continuosly engaged in a flame war on twitter with my
frenemy Sylvian Patrick as he
tweet-asked why I was engaging in conversation only with the ladies and not the
gents (quite obvious, if you know me) and also kissed and made up..err…just
made-up and called a truce- with my most recent blog war opponent Gitanjali as we suddenly came up
face-to-face after blowing hot and cold online. The person I really kissed was Prason Chris who had dared me earlier
to do it. It was pure competitive spirit which drove me to do it as I have
never been known to back down from a dare. Or so I told Prason’s wife later.
I also chugged around in a train
with the guys and girls, got lost following Sanjeeta as she went shooting
photographs and had to call people up to find out just where the heck I was and
had a thoroughly exhilarating time hitting up on all the pretty girls I happened
to meet that day, which was pretty much every single girl. I also happened to
win a dinner pass for two at a restaurant (now who will be THAT lucky lady?)
and also assorted small gifts and complimentary presents from the organizers of
the meet. All in all a thoroughly satisfying way to spend the weekend, as I met
plenty of girls, got plenty of stuff and pretty much squeezed every bit of fun
out of the evening as I needed. And worth every penny I didn’t earn that day.
It was one fun meet indeed..
ReplyDeleteand cha again, i missed it... :P
yep...it was a great meet AArti..and dont worry..more wacky fun coming up in future meets...there are no limits to me.... are there?
DeleteGood Job ;)
ReplyDeletethanks Rams...
DeleteOk, now I truly feel i missed it :(
ReplyDeleteDont worry bro...plan a trip back and let us know...we will hold a special meet in your honour
DeleteThanks for the appreciation doc! :)
ReplyDeleteFashion Panache
You deserve it all Bhusha!!...now go Dhrishti-sutthify..
DeleteWow!! Looks like you all had a great time at the meet! I am yet to attend a bloggers meet! :|
ReplyDeleteyou definitely should attend a blogger meet Shilpa....not only the fun aspect but also for the chance to connect and network with a lot of fellow bloggers and especially to put a face to those blogs you have been following....meeting the bloggers in person is such a different feeling, when you feel that you know them even before meeting them...dont miss out on any blogger meet which comes up
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